31 People Share When They Knew They Had A Toxic Family

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“After 18 hours of labor, an epidural that didn’t work so I felt everything, and giving birth at 4 a.m. to my first baby, my mom wanted to come visit but it was taking awhile to get to an actual room; most of the day I was in recovery. We got a room too late for her to visit, and then the next day, there was a breastfeeding class during visiting hours, so I asked my mom to come a little later than we originally planned. She texted me: ‘I get the feeling you just don’t want visitors. See you when you get home.’ I was hurt so I texted my sister as she had just had a baby, too, and I figured she’d know how I felt. She told me I was wrong and that I was hurting our mom’s feelings by not letting her see her new grandchild. I lost it.”

“All I was asking was for her to come a little later. I flipped out at them because I realized this kind of guilt-tripping happens all the time with them. If things don’t go their way, they play the victim and make everyone the bad guy. I’m just over it. I still see my mom as she eventually apologized, but when she starts acting up again, I give myself space. My sister has never changed, so I limit contact with her as much as possible and only see her at family events. She keeps trying to force a relationship with me, but I’m done.”

—beaglerock

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